27 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

Pavan quote poem about people and how they try to be someone who they aren't without realizing how great they truly are already.

We all had that life plan. You know the one. They asked us a few times in grade school and we would write it down, hide it away, and open it for a serving of nostalgia after graduation.

But how many times does it really work out that way? If I had to guess, less than 50%. For me, that plan included marriage, a Master’s degree, and my first company. Lofty goals. I would beat myself about deviating from “the path” or “my plan” so much. I later realized that it was because we’re never taught that life can get in the way. Or rather-that it’s OKAY that we pave our own way. I have two younger sisters that are at pivotal stages in their lives. They’re literally some of my favorite humans ever and I hope to inspire and–hopefully–teach them what I have learned from my experience-mistakes included.


We never account for the possibility of changing our minds, falling in love, falling out of it, and the overall experience that is life. I turned 27 years old on September 27 and was recently inspired by Ingrid Nilsen’s most recent video. This was really enlightening and intimidating to write, especially because as soon as I hit ‘publish’, this information is officially on the Internet forever. Part of my self-care routine is to constantly reflect and appreciate how far I have come without becoming entangled in the past, as well as being damn proud of what I have achieved. I encourage all of you to do the same 🙂 I would love to hear your thoughts on what you would tell your younger self. Comment below so we can start a conversation. I’ve also included some photos of my younger self (which are slightly embarrassing!) c. 2009-2012. I hope you enjoy.

  1. Yes, this move is brave. It will lead you to one of the best adventures of your life.
  2. Call your sisters more often.
  3. Don’t hold on to what you have been taught your whole life by others around you as a guide to live YOUR life.
  4. Don’t be afraid to make the first move: introduce yourself to that peer, the cute boy in your merchandising class, or the quiet girl reading the same book.
  5. Ask more questions; in fact, ask as many as you can. The universe is here for you to learn from it.
  6. Why not you? Your race, image, background, financial status holds absolutely no bearing on your character or what you can achieve.
  7. Nobody is born deserving anything. Be more humble. It’s good for the soul.
  8. Accept that you need to practice gratitude more often. It will change your life.
  9. You are not responsible for people’s mistakes. The only thing you can offer to your loved ones is affection and support, but you are not a life jacket to anyone and everyone who may be drowning.
  10. Learn to say no. It doesn’t make you a bad friend or colleague. 
  11. Your time is valuable. Don’t waste it seeking validation from anyone.
  12. Study abroad. Jumping into the unknown is good for you.
  13. Don’t stop reading. You will never, ever stop learning. Even after college.
  14. Fashion is not the only bubble in which you live and work in; read about astronomy, sociology, and technology.
  15. I know you love those to-do lists and being productive, but you need to also learn to relax.
  16. SLEEP. It’s healthy.
  17. Oh, you found a wrinkle? That’s OK.
  18. Also, don’t freak out about the bags under your eyes. See #16. 
  19. Please treasure the friendships you will encounter. They need nurturing as well.
  20. You’ve been in lust, but not in love…yet.
  21. Your sexuality is not a demon. What’s more is that it will be one of the most spiritual experiences when it’s with someone who loves you. It’s also fun. Own it. You’re not married either. So what? Chill. Let go of the Catholic guilt. What happens between two consenting adults is nobody else’s business.
  22. Get lost in those blue eyes because you’re about to fall in love. He’s somebody that will teach you so much.
  23. Meditate and search within you.
  24. Hold onto that faith. Believing is half the battle.
  25. Keep writing. You’re good at it.
  26. Don’t wait for that “perfect job”; seek inspiring people and opportunities.
  27. Keep being that hopeless romantic.

I hope, as always, that you have found this helpful or perhaps even inspiring.

What would you tell your younger self?

xo,


Introducing: Rebecca Minkoff x Stella & Dot!

One of the many fashion collaborations that I am incredibly excited for this fashion season (besdies The  Weeknd x H&M), is the Rebecca Minkoff x Stella & Dot 6-piece fall collection!

*I do want to disclose that I am a stylist for Stella & Dot in addition to my full-time job, so I am a little biased but it’s only because I absolutely adore and recommend!*

Rebecca Minkoff’s background as an entrepreneur and American businesswoman parallels Stella & Dot’s vision of affordable and chic accessories for the modern woman; it’s pretty much the perfect collaboration. Many magazines and press outlets are agreeing. You can read the story in US Magazine here or Brit+Co’s thoughts here.

Rebecca worked with our CCO Blythe Harris to create six unique jewelry pieces that are feminine and just the right touch of edgy.

We wanted to give a distinctive, feminine strength to the collection by juxtaposing the innate elegance of jewels against statement silhouettes.”
-REBECCA MINKOFF

The best part may just be that they’re all priced between $49-$69! You can browse the gallery below and visit my stylist shop here!

1. Cameron Charm Choker – $59- Five hand-set pave charms perfectly spaced on a delicate shiny gold choker. My favorite is the little triangle! Such a fun layering piece.


2. Emory Pave Earring Set – $49 – Hand-set pave stones placed on subtly-stated silhouettes. Pave bars fit through pierced ears, and then line upwards on the lobes. Malleable ends make these beautiful bars stay in place. Add the X midi cuff by sliding up from the lobe to the middle part of your ear. How gorgeous are these? Such a unique way to make a statement.


3. Celestial Ear Climbers -$49 –  Shiny gold ear climbers line the earlobes with cascading celestial accents. I am a sucker for anything celestial with stars and moons, so I am all over this ear climber. Pair this with the celestial choker (available in gold and silver), a chunky knit sweater, and some thigh-high boots.


4. Pixie Studs – $49 A feminine medley of color fans out beneath a geometric setting. These statement studs add a subtle pop to any outfit. I love this style of earring because even with all of the different colors, it is still sitting so timeless on the ear. Incredibly classy.


5. Pixie Chandeliers – $59 –  Mixing glamorous sparkle with a chic waterfall. A feminine frame holds beautiful neutral and green tones with accents of vintage gold. I love chandelier earrings with a more rustic metal base because you can throw up your hair in a bun, apply some red lipstick, and you look so put-together with almost no effort!


6. Pixie Choker- $69 –  Make a modern statement with this double choker. Iridescent sparkle, set in vintage gold, sits closely to the neck while a geometric pendant nests seamlessly below.

What do you all think of this collab? Meh or pretty great? Leave your comments below!

Travelogged: Colchuck Lake

Two weekends ago, some old friends and I got together to hike up to a pristine lake near Leavenworth, WA.

I am always open to attempt a new physical challenge, but this steep hike was something else. Although I was pretty well equipped, I found that the challenge was more mental and spiritual than physical. Don’t get me wrong, this hike was brutal, but something happens when you tell yourself you can’t do it anymore and then make it to the top. It was like a switch. It amazes me what we can accomplish when presented with a challenge and, instead of cowering and quitting, we take that hike, get dirty along the way, and marvel at what we overcame.

For more information on this particular hike, please visit All Trails here. Here are some images that I wanted to share with you all.

What summer adventures have you had? Have you hiked Colchuck? Leave me a comment.

XOXO,

Mel

Monday Musings: Volume 1

Hi, there.

I believe it’s productive and grounding to recognize the power of images for a creative. 

Whether it’s a masterfully-styled editorial shoot in a glossy magazine, an unfiltered image of our landscapes, or an image on Instagram from another person’s take on what style means to them, these muses ground me and inspire me.

Introducing Monday Musings; a simple gathering of how I’m feeling at the start of the week, what I’m loving, what (or who) is inspiring me.

I hope you share yours with me.

"When @becksimonstylist asks if you want to be part of a shoot for @woodmelbourne, you say YES BECK, OF COURSE BECK, gosh your hair looks nice today Beck :) Photo by @lisacohenphoto. Greenery from @glasshausnursery ;) Happy Saturday! Team DS. X #designstuff #bathroom #bathroomdesign" : designstuff_group - instagram"pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman", feminism, feminist quotes, equality, body positive quotes, bopo, body positivity

WILD☆

XOXO,
Mel

 

Fashion District NW Presents: Cars & Couture 2017 at the LeMay

If you are a fashion enthusiast living in the Seattle area, you probably have already heard about the Cars & Couture fashion show at the LeMay Car Museum. This is one of Fashion District NW’s events and centers around showcasing the talent of six apparel and accessory designers from around the Northwest. I am so excited to be working with them as a blogger to bring you all of the highlights and–hopefully!–some behind-the-scenes-craziness. Fashion District NW was also generous in giving you guys 10% off when you purchase your tickets with my code, “thatonefashionblog“.

Purchase your tickets here.

Join me this Saturday, July 22, 2017 at the historic LeMay Car Museum in Tacoma for a night of fierce fashion, fast cars, a red carpet, a live DJ booth, and some fantastic networking with the Seattle fashion and creative industry. I will also be posting live on my Instagram the night of the event!

Details are as follows:

Ticket Prices:

• $45 VIP (Front Row Seating & Prepaid Parking $5 Value)

• $25 2nd & 3rd Row

• Ticket prices will increase $5 if purchased at the door

Event Schedule:

• 6:30 pm Event Doors Open & Pre-Show Red Carpet Photos

• 7:00 pm Start Seating for the Show

• 7:15 pm Fashion Show Starts

• 9:30 pm Fashion Show Ends


 

If you are attending, leave a comment below!

Vroom, vroom.

Mel

PREMIERE: Harry Styles’ New Single: “Sweet Creature”

Unashamed, I admit I do love the (former?) One Directioner. His style, his looks, his voice are all incredibly refreshing.

Following the success of the Sign of the Times and a world tour announcement last week, the singer’s second single off of his self-titled debut album, is finally here.

Leave your thoughts below.

XOXO,

M