Self-Love Hacks: Buy Yourself Flowers! #SorryNotSorry

Happy 2019! Who else is glad — grateful, but glad — that 2018 is so over and behind us?

But forget resolutions and the 12 month goal list that you perfected on beautiful stationary. We all want to achieve our goals, I get that. Two of the topics I am so passionate about is increasing the awareness of mental health and breaking the stigma, as well as addressing the importance of self-care practices and habits. Continue reading “Self-Love Hacks: Buy Yourself Flowers! #SorryNotSorry”

How To Meditate: My Routine & How to Feel (& Give) More LOVE in 7 Days

“Meditation is not a way of making your mind quiet.

It’s a way of entering into the quiet that’s already there – buried under the 50,000 thoughts the average person thinks every day.” 

― Deepak Chopra

I was just like you once.

I would hear people talk about meditation and how it was this wonderfully soothing and life-changing experience for them and not believe a word they said. Continue reading “How To Meditate: My Routine & How to Feel (& Give) More LOVE in 7 Days”

Monday Musings: Volume 5

1. FALL IN LINE – Christina Aguilera ft Demi Lovato – Jojo Gomez x Kaycee Rice x Tim Milgram

The first time I watched this, my mouth was literally open the entire time. There’s not a whole lot to say about this dance other than it is the epitome and mirror image of what the message of the song is about. Watch and then watch again.

2. CHRISTINE HASSLER – best-selling author, keynote speaker, master coach, podcaster, and ‘human optimization obsessed”

“Today Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken

to over 100,000 people at colleges, personal growth events, conferences, and corporations.”

 

 

 

You guys know that I am obsessed with podcasts overall, but the immense concept of not just improvement, but optimization. I first listened to Christine talk on episode #156 of The Aubrey Marcus Podcast, which I linked below if you’re curious. The reason why she captivated me so much was the graceful, effortless way which she communicates her story about pain and the beautiful writings she produces. If you check her out, let me know and we can start a book club for one of her books!

3. Christian Dior | Haute Couture Fall Winter 2018/2019 Full Show | Exclusive

 

DIOR always dominates the runways, couture included. From the all-white ceilings to the dress forms hung to mimic an atelier, to the Meghan Markle-like silhouettes and feminine touches…this collections is my favorite to date. Please read Sally Singer’s more eloquent and fantastic review on Vogue here.

Monday Musings: Volume 4

Cheers to a new week, everyone!

Wow, almost added a smart ass comment after that rarely optimistic statement (lol). Honestly though, I’ve never felt so compelled to share what has been feeding my creative soul lately, especially with regards to the music. This is music that has given me so much more life–literally–than I have felt from an album in a while.

Also, shame on you for skeptically thinking to yourself that what I have is “prob not even that good” because GIRL.

IT IS THAT GOOD.

And one more thing before I share this week’s muses–thank you all for the support towards my last Monday Musings post. Read it here. It makes me so happy that you guys are finding this book helpful and are binge-listening Aubrey’s podcast. His book is next on my summer reading list, AND–I came thisssss close to submerging my entire body under my freezing cold shower recently. Some days it’s just arms and on others I can cover more area. Point being–PROGRESS.

MUSICAL & VISUAL ARTISTS

Shawn Mendes. 

My sisters are rolling their eyes so far back in their heads right now; they are so sick of me playing his self-titled album and talking about his eyes. But honestly, I have no shame in totally crushing on this fellow-Internet person because the guy is the real deal. Shawn is genuinely, without a doubt, on my list of top male performers of all time; up there with Justin Timberlake, Bruno Mars, and Ed Sheeran. So let me tell you why. This Canadian crooner (See that alliteration? My AP Lit teacher would be so proud) has the suave style & musical genius of Timberlake, the charm of Bruno Mars, and the heart of Ed Sheeran-all meshed perfectly with his own wise and humbled perspectives.

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Of course, I would encourage you to purchase the album, which is phenomenal and I may have to do a separate post reviewing it on its own, but if you want a little appetizer before the main course, watch this live performance of my favorite song (I cry every single time- sorry, not sorry) off of his newest album, Perfectly Wrong, on The Late Late Show with James Corden. You’re welcome.

Carrie Rad. 

I refer to her as a visual artist because her content is just STUNNING. Not only is she the sweetest, but the production, attention to detail, and genuine shine that lights through your screen warrants a word-of-mouth recommendation. She normally publishes travel & wellness videos, but I live for her fashion & beauty videos as well. Currently, I am following along her series called #SelfCareSummer. Check out her latest video below.

 


I am so happy you guys are liking these weekly bits of inspo. Connect with me on Instagram at @ThatOneFashionBlogger (I’m obsessed with IG stories) and let me know what you’re currently feeling inspired by.

XOXO,

Melissa

Monday Musings: Volume 3

Happy Monday, beautiful humans.

It’s been a minute since I have published one of these curated posts on what I am being inspired by in film, music, literature, business, fitness–you understand. A tiny bite of the Zeitgeist (if you will), from me to you. I loved writing this because it serves as an act of reflection; I can pinpoint where my head and creative mojo are at–a pattern, so to speak.

People & perspectives fascinating me lately:

Aubrey Marcus, his podcast, and his passion for love, philosophy,  & tapping into your subconscious and  highest potential. This is one my favorite episodes from his podcast–which overall has been downloaded some 10 million times on iTunes, so…thank me later. And then thank yourself for taking this step. [Warning: (if you have little ones around) : some explicit language.]

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“The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World” by Haemin Sunim —Never have I read a book that flowed like water, that touched on all of the trivial annoyances and obstacles that were holding back my gratitude, and acted as a guide with his hand wisely on my shoulder. I have about 50 pages to go, but already a holy grail book. Check it out here. 

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I am so excited for you to guys to dive into this book or start binge-listening (sorry, not sorry) to Aubrey’s podcast if you haven’t already. Let me know of any of your current muses or sources of inspiration below!

Love and light,

M

 

My 4 Never-Fail Stress Relief Methods

Hello, everyone and HAPPY SPRING! 

The sun is out, the flowers are blooming, and I couldn’t be happier for the new season. However, it seems like our lives have never been busier! Anybody else feel this way? With work, school, pets, kids, friends, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, chores, errands, hobbies you want to try, bills you have to pay, deadlines you have to meet, dresses you want to fit into–UGH! It can all be too much sometimes. And you deserve to take care of yourself. I like to think of my self-care time as rewarding my body and mind for all that it does for me 24/7.

So let’s talk about it for a second. STRESS. Everyone experiences it and the ways to relieve it are so personal and varied, but I wanted to give you an insight on my own tried and true methods.

  1. Burning Incense

    • I always connected incense to acts of praise in churches or to create an atmosphere in a yoga studio or spa, but never researched the benefits behind the burning. Similar to essential oils, certain scents have their own benefit. Did you know to relieve stress, sandalwood and cedarwood are great because they both reduce your heart rate and sooth nerves? Who knew? Now you do. If you’re looking for some accessible and affordable ($1.99 at my local Fred Meyer) incense sticks to start out with, check out these by GONESH that I have been loving.

2. Tea

    • I’m not sure what all I can write here to convince you guys that this really helps me in lifting my mood and will benefit you as well. I think it’s the same reason that we crave warm soup when we’re sick and why we live for those moments wrapping ourselves in a blanket straight out of the dryer–because warmth is that comfort. I love this particular one from the brand Yogi because it’s yummy (nobody likes those diluted teas, am I right?), but also because of how the blend of lavender and honey make me feel. Lavender is known to reduce stress and anxiety and even improve sleep and brain function. What else can you ask of your tea?

3. Meditate & Practicing Affirmations

  • I cannot even begin to express the ways in which meditation has saved my soul. I mean every word of that. I had always heard about it and skeptically always brushed it off. Where have I been? Not meditating and being miserable, that’s where. That may be a slight exaggeration, but you follow me. Who knew that sitting still in silence and being present would help relieve so much stress?
  • The other part of this method of stress-relief involves the affirmations. I began to experiment with these when I watched The Secret a few years back. However, practicing 5-10 min of affirmations at the beginning of my day is almost essential for me now. Sometimes I practice affirmations in place of meditation if I’m running behind. Regardless, I love this time to say these affirming statements of self-love, awareness, and optimism because they make me feel as though what I’m saying is practically reality. The statements go from being desires and thoughts to strong statements in the sound of your own voice. There’s something very profound in that. Here are some of my favorites that I constantly go back to.
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  • 4. Art Therapy

    • This is actually a thing guys. Let me give you a bit of necessary tidbits; creative expression can be achieved through some therapeutic and creative activities, it helps with reducing stress and anxiety, and provides a meditative state in which you really have no choice but to participate in. I love how this article about the benefits of art therapy put it–“Unplugging from technology promotes creation over consumption.” I have always been a creative, so when I don’t work with my hands on something colorful like sketching or even ripping my favorite pages from a magazine for a mood board, I basically lose my marbles. I got this ‘adult’ coloring book a while ago and have been immersed in it recently. So much so, that hours go by and I am so consumed by what I am working on that I don’t even notice. I really love this method of stress-relief because there is a beautiful and colorful result at the end, and because I am so concentrated on the colors I am choosing and how it’s all looking. Honestly, I have no choice but to be the most present that I can be and all other worries naturally fall to the wayside.  Check out the progress I have made on this piece!

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I very much sincerely hope that you found these helpful and that you find yourself inspired to implement any–or all!–of these methods into your lifestyle. Leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts!

Until the next post,

Mel

27 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

Pavan quote poem about people and how they try to be someone who they aren't without realizing how great they truly are already.

We all had that life plan. You know the one. They asked us a few times in grade school and we would write it down, hide it away, and open it for a serving of nostalgia after graduation.

But how many times does it really work out that way? If I had to guess, less than 50%. For me, that plan included marriage, a Master’s degree, and my first company. Lofty goals. I would beat myself about deviating from “the path” or “my plan” so much. I later realized that it was because we’re never taught that life can get in the way. Or rather-that it’s OKAY that we pave our own way. I have two younger sisters that are at pivotal stages in their lives. They’re literally some of my favorite humans ever and I hope to inspire and–hopefully–teach them what I have learned from my experience-mistakes included.


We never account for the possibility of changing our minds, falling in love, falling out of it, and the overall experience that is life. I turned 27 years old on September 27 and was recently inspired by Ingrid Nilsen’s most recent video. This was really enlightening and intimidating to write, especially because as soon as I hit ‘publish’, this information is officially on the Internet forever. Part of my self-care routine is to constantly reflect and appreciate how far I have come without becoming entangled in the past, as well as being damn proud of what I have achieved. I encourage all of you to do the same 🙂 I would love to hear your thoughts on what you would tell your younger self. Comment below so we can start a conversation. I’ve also included some photos of my younger self (which are slightly embarrassing!) c. 2009-2012. I hope you enjoy.

  1. Yes, this move is brave. It will lead you to one of the best adventures of your life.
  2. Call your sisters more often.
  3. Don’t hold on to what you have been taught your whole life by others around you as a guide to live YOUR life.
  4. Don’t be afraid to make the first move: introduce yourself to that peer, the cute boy in your merchandising class, or the quiet girl reading the same book.
  5. Ask more questions; in fact, ask as many as you can. The universe is here for you to learn from it.
  6. Why not you? Your race, image, background, financial status holds absolutely no bearing on your character or what you can achieve.
  7. Nobody is born deserving anything. Be more humble. It’s good for the soul.
  8. Accept that you need to practice gratitude more often. It will change your life.
  9. You are not responsible for people’s mistakes. The only thing you can offer to your loved ones is affection and support, but you are not a life jacket to anyone and everyone who may be drowning.
  10. Learn to say no. It doesn’t make you a bad friend or colleague. 
  11. Your time is valuable. Don’t waste it seeking validation from anyone.
  12. Study abroad. Jumping into the unknown is good for you.
  13. Don’t stop reading. You will never, ever stop learning. Even after college.
  14. Fashion is not the only bubble in which you live and work in; read about astronomy, sociology, and technology.
  15. I know you love those to-do lists and being productive, but you need to also learn to relax.
  16. SLEEP. It’s healthy.
  17. Oh, you found a wrinkle? That’s OK.
  18. Also, don’t freak out about the bags under your eyes. See #16. 
  19. Please treasure the friendships you will encounter. They need nurturing as well.
  20. You’ve been in lust, but not in love…yet.
  21. Your sexuality is not a demon. What’s more is that it will be one of the most spiritual experiences when it’s with someone who loves you. It’s also fun. Own it. You’re not married either. So what? Chill. Let go of the Catholic guilt. What happens between two consenting adults is nobody else’s business.
  22. Get lost in those blue eyes because you’re about to fall in love. He’s somebody that will teach you so much.
  23. Meditate and search within you.
  24. Hold onto that faith. Believing is half the battle.
  25. Keep writing. You’re good at it.
  26. Don’t wait for that “perfect job”; seek inspiring people and opportunities.
  27. Keep being that hopeless romantic.

I hope, as always, that you have found this helpful or perhaps even inspiring.

What would you tell your younger self?

xo,